What I Learned From Reading “You Are A Badass” by Jen Sincero

Even though I’ve been advised to read “You are a Badass” many times, I didn’t expect much. I thought it couldn’t be much different from all other personal development books I’ve read in the past years.

How wrong I was!

I rarely enjoyed reading a self-help book as much as this one. I am not only sure it will be one of my favorite books read in 2020, but it definitely made it to my all-time-favorite-books list.

Jen Sincero managed to explain woo-woo topics like manifestation, the law of attraction, and designing the life of your dreams in a way everyone can understand and apply the learnings.

I was already into these topics, thus, for me, it was easy to consume, but I genuinely believe anyone can benefit from reading this book. It’s one of the few pieces I’d like to order in bulk and hand out to anyone who has self-doubt and lacks motivation.

Here are my most favorite learnings from “You are a Badass” by Jen Sincero:

“It’s about having the cojones to show up as the brightest, happiest, badassiest version of yourself, whatever that looks like to you.”

I don’t know about you, but for me, this is incredibly powerful.

Honestly: We have one life to live, and we have no clue how many days we have left on this fantastic planet, why would we not give our bests to become our best version?!

“All you need to do is make one simple shift: You need to go from wanting to change your life to deciding to change your life.”

Any great achievement and everything worth fighting for starts with a decision. Once you decide to make a profound change, taking action becomes more effortless.

Jen Sincero beautifully explained what the actual difference between wanting something and deciding is:

“Wanting can be done sitting on the couch with a bong in your hand and a travel magazine in your lap. Deciding means jumping in all the way, doing whatever it takes, and going after your dreams with the tenacity of a dateless cheerleader a week before prom night.”

“You’re going to have to let go of old, limiting beliefs and cling to your decision to create the life you desire like your life depends on it.”

..because it does.

Your life literally depends on your decisions because they design your future.

“You’ve gotten to where you are right now by doing whatever it is you’re doing, so if you’re less than impressed with your current situation, you clearly need to change things up.”

The harsh reality is that you created your current life. If you aren’t satisfied with what you have now, it’s more or less your fault.

The good news, however, is that you have 100 % of the power you need to make a profound shift and start building a life that is wilder than your wildest dreams.

“We’re all attracting energy to ourselves all the time whether we realize it or not. And when we’re vibrating at a low frequency (feeling pessimistic, needy, victimized, jealous, shameful, worried, convinced we are ugly) yet expect high frequency, awesome things and experiences to come into our lives, we are often disappointed.”

For some people, this one might sound too off-hook, yet, the fact is it’s an enormous power we have at our disposal.

Our whole life is full of energy, and our reality always matches the energy we send out to the universe.

“The Universe will match whatever vibration you put out. And you can’t fool The Universe.”

If you feel big, think big, and act big, you can expect significant results. If you, however, doubt yourself, keep finding excuses and spend your time on low energy, that’s what will find its way back to you.

“When you’re vibrating at a high frequency, awesome things seem to flow to you effortlessly and you seem to stumble over the perfect people and opportunities all the time (and vice versa).”

“We’re surrounded by this big, all-you-can-eat buffet of incredible experiences and insights and feelings and opportunities and things and people and ways to share our gifts with the world, and all we have to do is align our energy with what we want and take decisive action to allow this good into our lives.”

I mean…how cool is that?!

An all-you-can-eat buffet of experiences and opportunities, and you can choose what to grab…sounds too good to be true, huh?

Yet, that’s the reality. Every day, we can choose how to act and what to attract into our lives. And in my opinion, we should give our best to attract as much greatness as possible, because why not?

“If you get very clear on what you truly want (rather than what you think you should want), believe that it’s available to you regardless of your present circumstances by staying connected to Source Energy and keeping your frequency high, and take decisive action, you will eventually succeed.”

“All the stuff we’re so worried about creating and fixated on becoming is already right here, right now. The money you want already exists; the person you want to meet is already alive; the experience you want to have is available, now; the idea for that brilliant song you want to write is here, now, waiting for you to download the information. The knowledge and insight and joy and connection and love are all wagging their hands in your face, trying to get your attention. The life you want is right here, right now.”

I had to re-read this a few times until I truly understood its true meaning. And once I realized it, I was blown away.

Everything we want already exists. We just need to align our energy and our actions to match our desires.

“Think of it like electricity. Before the invention of the light bulb, most people weren’t aware of electricity’s existence. It was still here, exactly the same way it is right now, but we hadn’t yet woken up to it. It took the invention of the light bulb to bring it to our attention. We had to understand how to manifest it into our reality.”

We often forget that life doesn’t need to be hard or complicated. Life is in a constant flow and more relaxed than we expect it to be.

“Feel your breath moving in and out of your body. Feel the air on your skin. Feel your heart beating. Your eyes seeing. Your ears hearing. Notice the energy inside and outside of you buzzing. Shut off your thoughts and feel your connection to Source. B-r-e-a-t-h-e. Even if you’ve got bone-chilling credit card debts or you haven’t spoken to your mother in six years, right now, in this moment, you can find peace and joy in that which simply is.”

Too often, we let our problems control our lives instead of merely breathing.

Most of our problems are solvable. There’s always a way out without freaking out over something. Sometimes, just stopping for a moment, and taking a deep breath is the most effective solution to any problem.

“The more time you spend in the moment, the richer your life will be. Being present gets you out of your head and connects you to Source Energy, which raises your frequency, which attracts things of like frequency to you. And all of those high-frequency things and experiences are already here, just waiting for you to join the party, all you have to do is shut up, show up, and usher them in.”

“When you constantly deny yourself the people, food, things, and experiences that make you feel the most alive, that sends a pretty lousy message home.”

Instead, live a life that excites and energizes you every day.

You are the only one in charge of your life, so make sure to create an experience that is a-m-a-z-i-n-g.

“We’re all busy, but it’s the people who make enjoying their lives a priority who, um, enjoy their lives.”

“Receive compliments gracefully instead of countering with a disclaimer such as, “Oh, this ratty old thing?” Try this instead: “Thank you.” Period.”

The inability to accept compliments is so common! It’s unfortunate how we can’t be proud of our achievements, strengths, or anything else we’ve created in our lives.

Let the love in. Accept all the compliments that come your way, they come for a reason. You deserve them!

“Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life.”

Last but surely not least: Stop comparing yourself with others. Period.

Honestly, why would you do that?

We are all unique in our own ways, literally.

There is no other you on this planet. Why would you try to be someone else?

Life is so much more fun if we create our own vision and give our best to get there with all the resources and strengths we have, instead of checking out other people’s Instagram Stories.