A Huge Part of Your Success Depends on Your Attitude

I write and talk about a positive mindset a lot.

Along with topics like productivity, self-care, habits, and confidence, the right mindset is one of the major topics I write about here on Medium.

It’s also one of the key topics I teach in my workshops and my private mentoring sessions.

So many people have vast skills but lack the mental strength to make it big in life.

On the other side, every day, we see people who make major progress, achieve great results, and close exceptional deals without having any talents or being extraordinarily good in any particular field. These are the people who have a strong mindset and the right attitude towards life and winning. These are the ones who use the power of the universe, apply the law of attraction along with the other universal laws, and who trust in themselves and the universe.

This morning, I read a great post by Niklas Göke explaining how most writers don’t try to understand the business perspective of Medium but instead continually complain about all the changes on the platform.

That’s actually not a Medium-only-problem but instead a phenomenon we see across several industries, countries, and platforms.

Complaining is easy.

Taking action, however, is the more difficult part.

Taking action and having the attitude of a winner? Incredibly difficult. At least for most people.

Guess what: We are all exposed to changes.

Not only on Medium but in our whole lives. Literally nothing in our lives is secure.

I mean, we don’t even know if we’re going to survive today. Or tomorrow.

You can try to play it safe, but you’ll surely be better off if you create the attitude of a winner and play it big instead of safe.

You’ll always be exposed to changes and challenges. And you’ll always have two opportunities:

• Complain about your life and how miserable you are.

Or

• Be optimistic and give your best while sustaining a strong attitude.

I’ve been through both.

For a big part of my life, I was pessimistic and a big complainer.

I would’ve described myself as realistic, but looking back, the truth is I was a crab.

I thought some people are just lucky while the majority of us has to work their asses off for nothing.

That’s just not true.

I’ve been quite amazing at feeling sorry for myself and criticizing external factors whenever I felt life was unfair.

Thankfully, at the age of 19, I came into touch with personal development. I started reading books, watching inspirational videos, and visiting seminars on topics like success, productivity, and mindset.

And I am so glad I did.

Changing my mindset from being a complainer into being a confident, kickass woman who believes that she can have it all took me more than 2.5 years.

And guess what?

Ever since I realized how powerful I am and what an incredible impact my thoughts have on my life, not only my mindset, but my whole life changed.

I have a much deeper connection with my boyfriend, my relationship with my family is lovelier than ever before, my income increased tremendously, and I am feeling healthier and more balanced than ever.

“Every time we have a thought, we make a chemical. If we have good thoughts, we make chemicals that make us feel good. And if we have negative thoughts, we make chemicals that make us feel exactly the way we are thinking.”

— Joe Dispenza

I know that these topics sound like woo-woo for many people. I am a coach and trainer, so I have the pleasure of talking to many people about topics like mindset, the law of attraction, and manifestation. And I know there are a bunch of people saying, “I don’t believe in that.”.

Well, here’s the thing:

The universe doesn’t care whether you believe in it or not.

It just does its job. And the law of attraction, which is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on, is only one of the universal laws that exist.

You can not deny it. Neither can you act as if it doesn’t exist.

I mean, sure you can ignore it, but this will not make your life easier.

You would never question the force of gravity, which is also a universal law — so why would you question the power of your thoughts?

“You are a living magnet. What you attract into your life is in harmony with your dominant thoughts.”

— Brian Tracy

You have literally nothing to lose by being optimistic and using the power of your thoughts. Yet, you have everything to win.

Here are five rules for establishing a strong attitude and a positive mindset:

1. Preparation and Repetition are Key

Do you know some of those people who seem like having all the talent and are doing well in everything they try?

Most of the time, we are jealous of those people, but we don’t ever consider the hard work they’ve been putting behind their results.

Whenever I talk about manifestation, a strong mindset, or the law of attraction, some people think that I’m sitting at home meditating all day.

Guess what: I am not.

I don’t meditate at all. I suck at it. Instead, I practice journaling, but that’s not the point here.

The law of attraction doesn’t work without the law of (massive) action.

Whatever you are trying to achieve: the right attitude and a strong mindset are essential, but taking action is at least as important.

Of course, you won’t succeed by solely thinking of success.

You need to get active. You need to practice a lot, prepare well and repeat that process daily

“We have a strategic plan. It is called doing things.”

— Herb Kelleher

2. Embrace Challenges

Embracing challenges and new opportunities is a big part of any success. As described above, changes will always happen.

Nothing is secure or safe in life.

You’ll always face smaller and bigger difficulties. And that’s okay. It’s even awesome because these are the situations that help us grow into our best versions.

The most successful people are those who take on challenges and give their best despite uncertainty.

3. Take Responsibility

I honestly don’t understand why so many people are afraid of taking responsibility.

You are responsible for everything in your life. Period.

Yes, you can’t control everything that goes on, but you can control how you react to it.

And that’s your superpower. Literally.

By taking responsibility, you make the first step in creating a life that is appealing and sexy to yourself.

Studies show that only until our 18th birthday, we have heard the words ‘’You can’t do that.’’ up to 200,000 times. Thus, it is critical to establish the right mindset and believe that we are responsible for everything that happens in our lives, not the other way around.

“If you do what is easy your life will be hard. If you do what is hard your life will be easy.”

4. Take Care of Yourself and Grow

Winners don’t miss out on their self-care and their personal growth.

On the contrary, they know that their own wellbeing needs to be a priority to perform well and deliver extraordinary results.

The more you take care of yourself, and the better you feel, the more powerful decisions you’ll make throughout your days.

Self-care is highly relevant when it comes to being productive and successful.

Additionally, the quality of our lives depends on the amount of growth we can comfortably live with. Constant growth, therefore, leads to high self-fulfillment.

When we look at our schedules, even the busiest of us have quite a high number of minutes or even hours per day that we could use more wisely.

Imagine spending each minute during your commute listening to podcasts, audio-books, or other quality content. For most people, this will equal to several weeks of personal development each year, meaning that you’ll uplevel your mindset and attitude without spending an extra minute on it but instead using your wasted minutes wisely.

5. Transform into Your Best Version

Comparing yourself with other people will mostly lead to being average. Because that’s what most people are. And also what they want to be.

If you want to be different than the average and if you want to achieve results above the average, you’ll need to aim for a better version of yourself.

Comparing yourself to your best possible version will help you to improve and focus on the path to success.

What I do at least once a year is checking on all the different areas of my life and asking myself how the best version of myself looks like. By doing so, I create a vision of my very best self, which again motivates me to give my best every day.

“Average is exhausting. Passion for the extraordinary unleashes energy.”